Getting Sammie Cat and I ready to leave 411 this morning is emotion filled. I know that during the three weeks between now and my return, most of the contents of the house will be gone. Kat and Tom have done incredilbe work in preparation for the estate sale coming soon. But, the bottom line is that they are the ones who have done the lion's share of ALL of the work ever since Dad fell in 2012 and Mom and Dad moved to Hidden Lake in February, 2013.
It's been a very rough road for all of us. It took almost three years for Mom to be able to let go, so we could begin to get this show on the road. Kat and I shared a lot while we worked. Kat's lament yesterday was that she wished Mom could see "beyond the stuff", to what's important...the memories, family, and all that made 411 a living, breathing, happy place for more than 40 years. Various people have been through the house during this phase. Neighbors have commented about how often they heard laughter from the back porch and the front as well. Strangers commented on what a great house it is and how you could feel what a great family we are. The best comment was that you could tell how interesting we were and that we had fun.
Even empty, 411 is full of life.
So, Kat came with me last night when I had my good-by visit with Mom and Dad. In the midst of talking about everything and how it was going, Mom said: "I'm not dead." Everyone started laughing, and so did Mom. It may seem like a small thing, but it is the first time in ages that Mom smiled and laughed and that we could all laugh together. It felt like a huge boulder had been moved aside.
Last night's good-by was the first good good-by that I've had with Mom and Dad in almost three years. It was wonderful. Leaving well is important.
Here's to more smiles, laughs, and yes...even the tears that come with sharing such a huge transition in our lives!