After my patient pelican path on Sunday, I of course, headed over for a visit with my lion. I realized that I hadn't taken any close-ups of him recently and went to work. Funny, the closer I got the deeper and different expressions I discovered.
I shot. I sat. I pondered. I thought about other conversations that I'd had with that Vann who I'd made "perfect" with unconditional love.
But what about others?
Are they able to do the same in return?
I still chuckle when I remember the telephone conversation I had with Vann between France and the states, when he said: "You know, Laury, people would consider us selfish." It was difficult for me to grasp where he was coming from because Vann and I were two of the most "un-selfish" people I know (at least that's my opinion). It suddenly became clear to me that someone wanted something from Vann that he couldn't or chose not to give. I'd bet he'd been called "selfish". Others are often not happy when they can't get what they want.
He'd hit a nerve. I remember saying: "We're not selfish."
I went on to tell him that I don't believe it is selfish to know who you are, to know what you want and don't want, and to share that information with others directly. That's called honesty, not selfishness. It's called being true to yourself. I asked him: "Who really is the selfish party here? Should you give up yourself and who you are to make someone else happy...just to give them what they want?"
The light bulb went off for him. I could almost see it, even with 5000 miles and an ocean between us.
Missing Vann, but finding him when my lion speaks...
Happy Hump Day!
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